Let Go and Let God:
Two Phrases That Can Change
the Way You Build Your Real Estate Business

Let go and let God. I am divinely guided.

What if two of the most powerful things you could say to yourself each morning had nothing to do with production, prospecting, closings, money, or your next listing?

What if your first thoughts of the morning were simply: Let go and let God. I am divinely guided.

Before you reach for your phone. Before you check your email. Before you look at the MLS. Before you see whether the buyer responded, whether the appraisal came in, whether the seller accepted the offer, or whether yesterday's lead finally called you back. Before the outside world gets an opportunity to tell you how you're supposed to feel about your day, take a moment to decide for yourself.

For me, these two phrases represent something much bigger than positive thinking. They represent surrender, faith, identity and intentional action. And I believe they can completely change the way we approach not only life, but our real estate businesses.

The Real Estate Business Can Make You Believe You Control Everything

One of the hardest lessons to learn in real estate is that we can do everything right and still not control the outcome. We can't control whether someone answers the phone. We can't control interest rates. We can't control another agent. We can't control an appraisal. We can't control an inspection. We can't control whether a buyer suddenly gets cold feet. We can't control whether a seller decides not to move. We can't control whether the deal we've spent weeks putting together falls apart two days before closing.

And yet, as real estate agents, we often carry every one of those things as though they are entirely our responsibility. That's exhausting. Eventually, that need for control can turn into anxiety, fear, frustration and even paralysis. You know exactly what you're supposed to do, but suddenly you don't want to do any of it. You don't want to make another call. You don't want to follow up with another lead. You don't want to hear another "no." And that's exactly when I believe we need to remember: Let go and let God.

That doesn't mean stop working. It means stop trying to control what was never yours to control.

Surrender Is Not the Same as Giving Up

This distinction is incredibly important. Surrender is not inactivity. Letting go and letting God doesn't mean sitting on the couch waiting for a listing appointment to magically appear. Faith doesn't replace action. Faith changes the place from which we take action.

Instead of: "I HAVE to get this listing because I desperately need the money." We can move toward: "I'm going to serve this homeowner to the absolute best of my ability, and I'm going to trust God with the outcome."

Instead of: "I have to make 100 calls today because my business is falling apart." We can say: "I'm divinely guided. Someone may need exactly what I have to offer today. My responsibility is to show up and serve."

Same phone. Same prospecting list. Same business. Completely different energy behind the action.

What Jim Curtis and Lewis Howes Say About "I Am"

In an August 2026 conversation on The School of Greatness, Lewis Howes and transformational coach Jim Curtis discussed identity, fear, subconscious beliefs and the language we repeatedly use about ourselves. Curtis shared two phrases he particularly loves: "Let go and let God." and "I am divinely guided." Curtis described using "I am divinely guided" as a way of settling himself, lowering fear and returning to better decision-making. Howes took the conversation a step further by discussing the importance of what we repeatedly put after the words "I am."

That idea should get every real estate agent's attention. Because listen to the things agents say all day: "I'm terrible at prospecting." "I'm burned out." "I'm not good on video." "I'm not a luxury agent." "I'm terrible with technology." "I'm never going to compete with those agents." "I'm just not a good salesperson." "I'm not getting any business." Say something long enough and eventually you may begin behaving as though it's true.

Jim Curtis' larger framework centers on releasing an old identity, aligning with the person you want to become and then behaving in ways consistent with that new identity. In his conversation with Howes, they emphasize that words alone aren't enough, the actions have to support the belief. (PodScripts)

Your Identity Drives Your Activity

Most real estate training begins with activity. Make the calls. Send the texts. Follow up. Create the video. Knock on the door. Ask for the appointment. Ask for the business. Those things matter. But there's another question we don't ask nearly enough: Who is the person making those calls?

If you're making calls believing "Nobody wants to hear from me," your behavior will reflect it. You'll hesitate. You'll apologize. You'll sound uncertain. You'll avoid asking for the appointment. But imagine beginning from: I am divinely guided. Now the internal conversation changes. Maybe this homeowner needs someone today. Maybe this conversation is happening for a reason. Maybe my job isn't to convince them of anything. Maybe my job is simply to listen. To serve. To educate. To provide a solution. And then to trust the outcome. That's a completely different way to prospect.

Fear Is a Terrible Business Coach

Fear loves real estate. There are endless opportunities for it. What if I don't get another closing? What if they list with somebody else? What if they reject me? What if I spend money and it doesn't work? What if I make the wrong decision? What if I lose this deal? What if this buyer walks? Fear tries to make us predict a future that hasn't happened yet.

Curtis talks about using "I am divinely guided" specifically when fear shows up. The idea isn't that nothing difficult will ever happen. In fact, he acknowledges circumstances can still appear to go wrong. The practice is returning to the belief that even when you don't understand what is happening yet, you don't have to allow fear to make your next decision. (PodScripts)

That's powerful. Because some of the things I thought were disasters in my life eventually redirected me somewhere I needed to go. Sometimes the answer is yes. Sometimes the answer is no. Sometimes it's not yet. Sometimes the opportunity we desperately wanted would have prevented us from seeing the opportunity that was actually meant for us.

The Morning Practice I Want Real Estate Agents to Try

Before your feet hit the floor tomorrow morning, don't pick up your phone. Give yourself just a few minutes. Take a slow breath. Then repeat: Let go and let God. Again. Let go and let God. Then: I am divinely guided. I am divinely guided.

You can follow it with: God, guide my decisions today. Guide me to the people I can serve. Give me wisdom when I don't know what to do. Help me recognize the opportunities placed in front of me. Help me release the things I cannot control. Give me courage to take action on the things I can. Then get out of bed. And go to work.

Take the Practice Into Your Real Estate Day

Don't leave this mindset in your bedroom. Use it when the first lead doesn't answer. Let go and let God. Next call. A seller rejects you. I am divinely guided. Next opportunity. A listing expires. Learn from it. Take responsibility for anything you could have done differently. Then: Let go and let God. A deal falls apart. Do everything professionally possible to save it. If you've exhausted your options: Let go and let God. A prospect chooses another Realtor. Wish them well. Follow up appropriately. Then keep moving. I am divinely guided.

This isn't denial. It's emotional discipline.

The Three Things You Need to Separate

I teach agents to mentally divide their business into three categories:

1. What I Control: My calls. My follow-up. My attitude. My preparation. My marketing. My knowledge. My communication. My professionalism. My consistency. My willingness to serve. Take massive responsibility here.

2. What I Can Influence: A seller's pricing decision. A buyer's expectations. Negotiations. Presentation. Marketing response. Client decisions. Bring your experience, strategy and leadership here.

3. What I Cannot Control: Other people's decisions. Interest rates. The economy. An appraiser's final opinion. Another agent's behavior. A buyer changing their mind. Unexpected life events. This is where we let go and let God.

Imagine how much mental energy we could reclaim if we stopped spending it on Category #3.

Faith Doesn't Eliminate the Work. It Eliminates the Need to Carry Everything Alone.

This may be the most important distinction of all. I don't believe saying "I am divinely guided" means everything we want will automatically happen. And I don't believe "Let go and let God" means we don't have to work. Quite the opposite. I believe we're called to use our abilities. To show up. To serve. To learn. To work. To be courageous. To take the next step even when we cannot see the entire staircase. We do the work in front of us and surrender the outcome. There's incredible freedom in that.

A Different Definition of Success for Real Estate Agents

Success isn't only: How many houses did you sell? How much GCI did you earn? How many listings did you take? Those numbers matter in a business. But I also want to know: Did you serve people well? Did you keep your word? Did you become stronger? Did you make decisions based on faith instead of fear? Did you get back up when something fell apart? Did you have the courage to make the call? Did you help somebody who needed you? Did you become the person capable of handling the business you're praying for? That's growth.

Your New Real Estate Identity

Here's an exercise I want you to try. Pay attention to everything you say after "I am" for the next seven days. Catch yourself.

Instead of "I'm overwhelmed." Try: I am capable, and I am divinely guided. What's the next right thing I can do?

Instead of "I'm terrible at prospecting." Try: I am becoming better at conversations every day.

Instead of "I'm scared I'm not going to make enough money." Try: I am going to serve people today and trust God with what I cannot see yet.

Instead of "I can't do this." Try: I haven't figured this out yet, but I will.

Then back those statements with action. Make the call. Send the follow-up. Record the video. Go to the appointment. Study the market. Have the difficult conversation. Ask for the listing. Faith and action belong together.

Let Go. Listen. Act.

If I could give an overwhelmed real estate agent one practice to begin tomorrow morning, it would be this: Before you get out of bed: Let go and let God. I am divinely guided. Then ask: "God, what is mine to do today?" Listen. Get up. And do it.

You don't need to know how the entire month is going to work out at 7:00 Monday morning. You need the courage and clarity to take the next right action. Then another. Then another. And when fear comes back, and it will, Let go and let God. When you're unsure, I am divinely guided. When something doesn't go according to plan, Let go and let God. And when the opportunity finally arrives? Be ready. Because you haven't been sitting around waiting for God to build your business for you. You've been preparing. You've been growing. You've been serving. You've been becoming. You've been doing everything within your control while trusting God with everything outside of it. And that may be one of the most peaceful, and powerful, ways to build a real estate business.

The Daily Real Estate Agent Reset

Morning: Let go and let God. I am divinely guided.
Before prospecting: Guide me to the people I can serve today.
After rejection: Let go and let God. The next conversation may be the one.
When fear appears: I will not allow fear to make this decision for me.
When I don't know what to do: I am divinely guided. What is the next right action?
At the end of the day: I did what was mine to do today. I release the rest.
Tomorrow, we begin again. Let go and let God.

Inspired in part by the conversation between transformational coach Jim Curtis and Lewis Howes on The School of Greatness regarding identity, emotional regulation, fear, forgiveness, aligned action and the practice of saying "I am divinely guided."